You use power according to how you acknowledge it inside yourself. Determine your goal or destination and know why you want to go there.
This quote is weighted in truth. How do you acknowledge power within yourself?
Are you comfortable with your personal power (your ability to influence or control others). Do you believe you have personal power?
Your personal effectiveness rides on your ability to navigate between suggesting, guiding, leading and dictating depending on the context and requirements of your environment - and, knowing exactly how detached or connected the situation requires you to be.
Much of my work begins with exploring your personal relationship with power, how you acknowledge it and how it influences your ability to lead.
This relationship influences your language and communication style.
You may have a preference to connect with others and consequently, you will default to language that encourages. Using words like:
- We could (possibility words).
- I would like to (desire words) and
- Let’s do (choice words).
If this is you, you may find it hard to be detached and use more direct language such as:
- You must (necessity words) and
- You can not (impossibility words).
Or perhaps you are more comfortable with necessity words and impossibility words and the challenge lies in using possibility, desire or choice words.
Wherever your comfort zone lies, the skill in having personal power is to be able to navigate beyond your comfort zone. Not only with your choice of words but also with your ability to connect or detach as the situation requires and own your personal power. Holding your position with credibility.
Explore our core programmes to see how you can stretch beyond your comfort zone and master your personal power and communications, The Trouble with Talking Foundation Programme, The Trouble with Talking Feedback Programme and The Trouble with Talking Credibility Programme.